Acting, writing and other forms of creative expression can help us better understand life, both as artist and audience.
But as a performer or other artist, can you get too caught up in the fantasy life of your creative work?
And how do you think of yourself as a creative person?
That can affect how present you may be in ‘real life’ away from your creative work.
Jennifer Jason Leigh declared, “As a person, I don’t really register that much. Director Robert Altman says that as a person I disappear in a way.”
Peter Sellers once said, “If you ask me to play myself, I will not know what to do. I do not know who or what I am.”
From my article Creative expression and identity.
Showing your real self is the “most difficult thing” to do.
Brie Larson commented about Emma Stone:
“She is never afraid to show us the most difficult thing you can show the world: yourself. What that entails is not always pretty. But with Emma, it is real, and it is beautiful.”
Larson has also said, “It’s very scary to allow the world to see you. It’s really hard to see yourself and to recognize that you are a human being like everybody else.
“You just think everybody’s judging you.” [Quotes from her imdb profile.]
Photo: Brie Larson in Singapore by Rosemarie Yang – an article notes: “Larson had wanted a Singaporean female photographer to document her jaunts to Gardens By The Bay and the Sri Thendayuthapani Temple.
“Her objective? To give relatively unknown female photographers an opportunity to use her platform and build their portfolio.” From article Singaporean photographer’s day out with Captain Marvel’s Brie Larson 21 Feb 2019.
Mihaela Ivan Holtz, Psy.D., LMFT helps people in TV and film, performing and fine arts.
She writes about self-concept and many other issues in her articles.
Here is an excerpt of one on this topic of being disconnected:
Your art allows you to live what you want to live.
To feel the love you want to feel. To fight what you want to fight.
To find the answers you want to find in the face of life’s messiness and complexity. It allows you to create the stories that you want.
Why would you live in a real world that you may not like when you can create your own?
You can be all you have imagined, from the brave hero to the seductive lover to the savior of humanity.
Your fantasies and nightmares take shape in your art.
Away from your art, you tend to feel emotionally empty, lonely, and disconnected.
You often feel misunderstood, empty, unseen, and unworthy.
A sense of hopelessness can creep in… You have real life battles to face, but you hide behind your art.
Sometimes you think you’re one of those “tortured artists” with no hope of being happy and content with your life.
You turn to your art over and over again, finding your freedom there. That is where you find yourself to be most alive.
But is this the life you really want?
Isn’t hiding behind you art limiting your life?
Don’t you want to live a real life with more passion, love, purpose, and connection?
You love your art, but it stands between you and your real life
You recognize you want more from life.
You want real love and connection. You want real answers to life’s enigmas.
As much as you want to be part of this real world, deep inside you’re scared that you don’t know how or it won’t happen for you.
Maybe you don’t have what it takes to live in the real world, you fear.
You love to lose yourself in your art, but you also recognize you’re using it not to really face your fears and create your real life stories of love, of being the hero of your own world, or bring something of value to the world.
At the same time, a part of you is also scared that your art will suffer if you start creating your real life stories.
You don’t want to lose something you love so much.
Especially when your creativity has brought you success, stability, and recognition.
Part of you wants to come out into the “real world.” Part of you is afraid to really be out there.
Part of you wants to continue to hide. Part of you wants to show up in the different aspects of your life.
Your art is your life but not you’re everything…
Can you live fully in your creative world and the real world?
Yes, you can exist in both worlds.
You don’t have to compromise your art to live your life.
You don’t have to compromise your life to have your art.
Read more in the article by Mihaela Ivan Holtz:
How Can You Be So Present in Your Art But So Disconnected From Your Life?
Dr. Holtz writes about many topics that I have addressed in articles on the Creative Mind series of sites – here are a few examples:
Winona Ryder and Sensitivity and Mental Health – She comments that the novel and movie Girl, Interrupted “captures a mood we’ve all experienced. It’s like a reflective time we’ve all had in our lives, whether to kill ourselves, whether to be miserable or move on. You go through spells where you feel that maybe you’re too sensitive for this world. I certainly felt that.”
Finding and Expressing Your Unique Creative Voice – Natalie Portman referred to artist stereotypes when she once admitted: “Sometimes I get scared that I’m not a creative person, because it seems creative people are really flaky.”
Madness and creativity: do we need to be crazy? – Cognitive psychologist Scott Barry Kaufman notes “There’s so much we still don’t know about the creative mind, but what we do know suggests that being highly neurotic is not the magic sauce of creativity.”