Some talented people have difficulties in finding and keeping relationships that are meaningful and satisfying.
Scarlett Johansson has commented about particular challenges for actors:
“I don’t think human beings are monogamous by nature. It’s difficult – you have to put a lot of effort into a relationship. I think it’s hard for actors to date each other because they are so damn moody.
“You are away from people constantly and having a relationship that is strictly by phone, it is miserable. Or if you say to him/her, Hey, (even though) I am doing a very sexy scene with this very sexy girl/boy, I love you and I’m going to be thinking of you when I am rolling around in bed with this person!”
[imdb.com 23 Dec 2005]
[Photo: with Jonathan Rhys-Meyers in “Match Point”, 2005]
~ ~ ~ Depression – whether it is being ‘moody’ or a more serious disorder – affects many people, including artists. How creative people relate to mood challenges can have a deep impact on their lives and creative work. Some people think there is value in depression, not just pain and disruption.
Actor Anne Hathaway, for example, suffered from anxiety and depression as a teen, and has an interesting perspective on being a “different person” at the time – see The Creative Mind post: Depression: Helping Creativity or Suppressing?
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Kristin Kreuk has talked about shyness, being a “self-described introvert” according to some writers, and feeling like an outsider – qualities shared with many creative and talented people.
She admits girls in high school didn’t like her:
“I am shy and I don’t start relationships with people normally. I guess I have a way that can seem aloof and sort of cold. They didn’t like me that much, but I never resented it. I was different than they were.”
“I am shy and I don’t start relationships with people normally. I guess I have a way that can seem aloof and sort of cold.
“They didn’t like me that much, but I never resented it. I was different than they were.”
[Interviewer: “Did you ever have a high school boyfriend?”]
Kristin Kreuk : “No one worth mentioning — it just wasn’t something I found. I got a lot done that way!…”
See more of her quotes in post: Relationships and Highly Sensitive People.